Have you ever heard the phrase “walk by one; talk by two?” It’s a little rhyme to help us remember about the time when a child begins to walk on their own and then talk or make phrases. It struck me this morning that I have often been tempted to speak first and think later. This habit of sharing thoughts; “talking” before really “walking” out the thoughts and ideas I want to share has caused some interesting challenges. Why do you think God created us to walk almost an entire year before we are able to talk? I really don’t know. I can’t wait to ask him one day, but I’d like to take a hint from his design and begin walking the walk before attempting to talk the talk. I realize this will be a process, but speaking from experience is so much more valuable and sometimes not speaking at all can be really powerful too.
A prayer to share.
Lord help me to listen with love and patience to the people my actions and words affect each day. Help me to be slow to speak and quick to listen. I desire to show loving kindness. By the power of your holy spirit who lives in me, give me pause, give me grace and lead me in the way everlasting. I praise you Lord in Jesus’ name.
I can hardly believe it’s time for school shopping again, but here we are at the mall. Years ago we decided to set a budget and allow the kids to choose their school clothes, etc. within it. It’s life changing! This does not mean they’re allowed to wear whatever they want￼.
It does mean, however, that if they spent a bunch on jeans they might end up using last year’s backpack or if they want expensive tennis shoes they might only have enough left for a couple of T-shirts from a secondhand store￼. No matter what they decide, it has always impressed me to see how careful they are when they have the responsibility and freedom to make their own choices inside of loving limits.
We say, “you’re welcome to use your own money for anything beyond this amount but this is what dad and I can afford to give you this year￼￼.”
Another huge bonus is missing the tummy ache I used to get when they would show me price tags. These days, I just smile and realize all the important lessons they’re learning in this process.￼￼
Phil 4:11 “… I have learned to be content whatever the circumstances.”￼
For more scripture regarding wise financial decisions, check out https://www.biblemoneymatters.com/8-important-bible-verses-about-money-for-christians/
“Does not wisdom call out? Does not understanding raise her voice?
For those who find me find life and receive favor from the Lord.”
Proverbs 8:1, 35 NIV
Father, please forgive me for walking away from your wisdom and following my own desires. Lead me Lord… one step at a time.
Lauren’s lyrics … If you’ve never heard this song or you’ve heard it a thousand times, slowing down long enough to hear the heart cry for unity and salvation in our world will hit home in this season of unrest. Praise God for powerful lyrics and faithful followers to bring them to us with beautiful melody.
Parenting has been the hardest, most intense, heart-breaking, heart-warming, soul shaking, rewarding and unpredictable experience of my life thus far and with three teenagers, I’ve still got a long way to go. Lord help me. Lord help us all.
A word of encouragement to parents everywhere…
“If we’re careful not to take too much credit when our children make good choices, maybe we won’t have to take too much blame when they make poor choices because they will inevitably make both. In parenting, we do the very best we can, but accept that our children are individuals, not an extension of us.”
Love them well, love them deeply and if at all possible, let them know you love them every single day. May God bless your parenting journey as shaping the next generation is no small calling.
Special thanks to Emily J & Sarah R for training in compassion fatigue resilience.